Browsed by
Tag: activities

Making the Best of a Situation

Making the Best of a Situation

I tell lots of stories. One of the stories I don’t think I’ve ever told stretches back to the last birthday party I had in 3rd grade.

Having a birthday in December meant I had just changed schools that previous fall. Beginning the school year at a catholic school in a neighboring town, I didn’t think to invite many kids from my previous town (and school). However, I did invite my best friend, Ari. He was known to have a good time and get a little out of control like myself. He always managed to keep it together just a little bit more than myself, so he made for a good governor.

3rd Grade Birthday Party

At my 3rd grade birthday party, I asked my dad to have it at an ice rink. Ari, was the only friend I invited from my old school. Everyone else was from the new school I was attending.

After a few laps of skating the rink, I found I wasn’t having much fun. Something inside was telling me that the party wasn’t exactly what I wanted. The skating rink seemed something like my new friends from the parochial school would be interested in. My old friends wouldn’t know what to make of it. Internally, I felt I wasn’t really into it.

It didn’t matter, I convinced myself to keep up the facade. No matter what, I had to make believe I was having a good time. Otherwise my father wouldn’t let me hear the end of it.

Within a few minutes my best friend Ari came up to me and said, “This isn’t fun!” I knew he was right. But I wanted to impress my new friends. I kept on skating around the rink and hoped Ari would act more like them. I pretended I had a headache. Ari did silly things to get me to laugh.

Hindsight is 20/20

As much as I wanted to laugh and have a good time with him, I didn’t bother. By the end of the day, I just hung out by myself. My new friends from the parochial school loved Ari and I was miserable. The party hadn’t turned out how I wanted it to. Ari was the star of the show. People wanted to hang out with him. I was supposed to be the big deal but no one seemed to notice.

As I look back on the situation with 20/20 vision I realize now I shouldn’t have compromised who I was. At the time I knew it too. I didn’t trust myself enough to be happy being myself (who I was inside). I thought assimilating to the new culture was more import. Since then, every day I kicked myself for leaving Ari left out in the wind trying to make me laugh by have a good time.

Now, I am an adult and I hope my children don’t make the same mistake I made as a child. I pray they will be themselves no matter who is in front of them. I hope and pray they will unapologetically be themselves. As dad, I’ll clean up the pieces proudly so my children grow to be themselves.

 

Hey, God Punished You

Hey, God Punished You

Growing up I learned from my parents being an older sibling means you’ve got to slow down, be a leader and good example for your younger sibling. If you aren’t going to be good to your younger siblings, you are going to pay for it when they outgrow you or Karma is going to pay a visit. As a parent I try to teach my kids the same things. My son is expected to be a model example and “useful engine” around the house (we are still into Thomas references).

Unfortunately, things don’t always go to plan. Sometimes one of the kids is unagreeable. Other times the kids have no idea what they are supposed to do. On rare occasions, the Karma gods reap their vengeance.

Read More Read More

The Desert Spear Book Review

The Desert Spear Book Review

Peter V. Brett did it again! He blew me away with another book. The Desert Spear, book two in The Demon Cycle, was spectacular. If you were a fan of The Warded Man, the second book in the series will have you begging, borrowing, and stealing until you get your hands on the next title. Do yourself a favor, order the box set.

I tried my best to hold back the Night. I wanted to hold off for a month before reading the next book in the Demon Cycle Series. Lord knows I tried but I couldn’t do hold out. Any quiet time during the day I pondered about The Warded Man. Knowing the book had already been published didn’t help. At any moment I could reserve the book from the library or go into a bookstore and buy it.

Read More Read More

Raising DC and Marvel Universe Fans

Raising DC and Marvel Universe Fans

As a kid I loved comics and superheroes. Comics about X-Men, the Hulk, and Batman were the only books I would read for a few years. As I grew older, I continued to read about superheroes in the library but I refused to check them out. I thought it looked dorky to check them out. Everything I read seemed so cool and everyone else needed to know about it. But I didn’t have any one to share my Marvel and DC universe knowledge with.

Read More Read More

I am Creating a Monster

I am Creating a Monster

The first step to solving a problem is admitting you have a problem. Hi, my name is Chris. I am creating a monster. At night My Precious cries for someone to comfort her. With my busy schedule, I don’t get to spend as much time with her during the daylight hours as I’d like.

At night time, guilt piles on hard and lightens with each step I take toward her bedroom. Within moments, I’ll pick her up or climb in bed snuggling close with her pink zebra. Every night like clockwork she’s up at 11pm and 1am waiting for me to visit. Should I leave her be? 

Read More Read More

Books and Hoops is Making Progress

Books and Hoops is Making Progress

The Books and Hoops program has made tremendous progress. Over the past few weeks I’ve been in touch with an up and coming graphic artist to create a logo. An IT consultant and I have been working to build a website. Business contacts have provided feedback to build a successful program. Most importantly, I’ve been in touch with two schools to begin the Books and Hoops program.

Read More Read More

There’s a New Breed of Basketball

There’s a New Breed of Basketball

Today’s game of basketball has changed. Now a days (I sound like an old timer), players are incredibly skilled. The average basketball player can shoot and handle the ball better than guys five or ten years ago. They can score on a zone, they can run an offensive play, and they can talk about the latest highlight on Sports Center. But where is the hunger?

Growing up I played basketball with a good group of guys. All they did was play ball. Day and night, all they wanted was to hoop. They worked on their game and expected to better than they were the day before. At the end of a pick up game, guys would start chirping about who got scored on, whose game was on point and whose sneaker game was ratchet. Simply put, they were hungry.

Read More Read More

Looking for Book Lovers and Literacy Specialists

Looking for Book Lovers and Literacy Specialists

Book Lovers, Teachers, Literacy Specialists

Avid readers and writers, I’d love to pick your brain on anything literacy. Teachers, book lovers, literacy specialist, you all have seen nearly every kind of reluctant reader and energetic reader. I want talk about success of building a reading life, possible book titles to share with kids or anything else you think important to developing the love for reading.

Read More Read More

Parents Deserve a Night Out

Parents Deserve a Night Out

It’s hard to schedule a day with my wife and no children. Spending whole days together are few and far between. We’re both lucky to have friends and family who are willing to hang out with our kids. When my wife and I get an opportunity to spend time with other adults (and no kids), we jump at it. Strangely enough, Kim and I were invited to a wedding on New Year’s Eve. This simple excuse allowed us to spend a day without the kids.

Read More Read More